Flirt

I feel like my sex life would spark up a little if I were able to go out more and develop flirtatious relationships with other men. I used to have a lot of them before we had kids and I swear it made me a better lover to my husband. Now I’m home all day and all night with the kids, and I feel like I need some semi-scandal or I’ll wither away. Do I need to give up this fantasy? Or pursue it? I’m not a cheater. I just need a little reinforcement. — Home Alone

Dear Home Alone,

We’re all for using semi-scandalous flirtation as a means to your own monogamous ends. It’s obviously worked for you in the past. You feel great. Your partner gets laid. Even the children benefit when parents are thriving in the sack. Breeders can be appallingly bad at keeping the sex hot in long-term relationships. So if you’re game, and your husband can take it, flirt away. Be that irresistible friend/coworker-you-can’t-sleep-with that you once were. A word of warning, however. Flirtations do get out of control. Feeling like a boring married mum can make an affair that much more tempting. It may also have been easier to translate your desires back to your husband before you started calling him Daddy. If you find your mind persistently wandering to the flirt object, we strongly suggest prudence.

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